If you’re reading this between 7:30 a.m. – 10:30 a.m. on December 16th, I’m in the surgery room at Legacy Good Samaritan hospital here in Portland. If it’s later than that, I am one kidney lighter, so that Gloria can have a healthy kidney and live a normal lifespan. I love that some readers have offered to help. Thank you!
Here are things I’d find helpful and uplifting in my recovery, in order of preference. This isn’t the most traditional post-surgery wish-list, but then, you’re dealing with someone who loves song lyrics written since you know me that won’t surprise you :). Gloria and I have wanted from the beginning of our shared project to have an impact beyond ourselves.
- Share in the comments what actions you are taking for anti-racism. I don’t need praise. In contrast, reading about your efforts will trigger endorphins in my body that will combat my pain and fatigue. It really does work that way.
- For example, you could sign up to receive the Anti-Racism Daily in your inbox. It’s educational, with practical suggestions on how we can make a positive difference. Consider donating to them, or to another nonprofit that works for antiracism.
- Share this or another of my pieces with a friend or colleague you think would be open to it. Let me know you did that. Again, I’m jonesing for the endorphin hits that come from having an impact.
- Food — dinners — would be helpful to Thor and Sura, my at-home care team. Please coordinate with Sura at email@example.com (Sura is our essentially adopted 26 y.o. son from West Africa.) Write “dinner” in the subject line. Warm shout-out to my friend Micki, who brought over three frozen containers of fancy soup — three weeks ago. So proactive.
Special thanks to my kidney donation mentors Sherwin, Heather and Emily. Also to my friend Colleen Kaleda, a fellow writer who may pen an update in the next week or so, based on chatting with me as I’m recovering.
And speaking of help, Colleen’s daughter Marie Louise wrote me the letter to the right earlier this month. It is refreshing to get unscripted, holistic feedback that includes my dancing abilities and list(en)ing skills. She is an honest 11 y.o. person who, for example, has let me know when a certain new haircut was not my best idea. So, when she writes “To Alison who is powerful” I feel . . . a touch more powerful.
Love, faith and blessings to you.
P.S. Marie Louise gave me permission to share her letter. I wouldn’t have done so otherwise.